One’s happiness is so much dependent on them. I always felt pity about those who keep blaming others for their unhappy self. Firstly, the concept of a person being happy about others DOES NOT exist. you are happy because of your mindsets and the way you perceive things. So it’s all about YOU / I .. Never WE there. It’s all about the choice we make between wanting to be happy or wanting to be a victim.
I know I confuse sometimes. But I also know I explain well.. So, let me explain this. There is a wedding where more than 500 people are attending. Suddenly the groom says NO to the bride. The wedding is called off. Do you seriously think EVERYONE is sad because a wedding broke and whatever the girl’s family spent had gone waste ? Nah … More than 25% of the people in wedding would have felt happy .. Let’s see ..
The wedding decorator, caterer, designer etc are happy because they are getting paid for the full service, where they had provided less than 50% of the service. Then it’s the turn of people who came to the wedding. Few might have hated the groom sometime or the bride, they feel happy the wedding broke. These people who are happy are extremely contagious.. They go and spread the viral as to why they are happy. They could be happy for the groom because they hate the girl, few could be happy because they didn’t like the boy and they think girl is extremely lucky to get rid of the boy before it’s too late.
But all these people had an option to sit and cry for the girl , because no matter how and why it happened, breaking a wedding is bad. ( it sounds sooo like the math table 2. You do whatever, 2*2 has to be 4 only. )
Now look at the girl’s family. though they are in a big trouble momentarily, they too have an option to make ! They have an option to sit and cry for the boy who has been irresponsible or thank god and be happy for letting them know that the boy IS Irresponsible. Probably if they had known about boy’s nature before, they had called of the wedding much before itself. Then, why it becomes tragedy when boy calls it off ?
It’s not about this wedding alone… It’s about any incident that we portray as tragedy, indeed has some other meaning. It’s our perception, that makes us see the dark side of any ONE incident. There is always something good that is hidden in EVERY incident of our life. It’s our choice to see the hidden side of it or see the momentary impact ( latter is easy though).
Your life may not be completely in your hands. But how to read your life and design your future is very much dependent on your perception. The more strong your design is, the more support you get from the almighty and the nature : ) Of course, Experience speaking this side.