One’s happiness is so much dependent on them. I always felt pity about those who keep blaming others for their unhappy self.  Firstly, the concept of a person being happy about others DOES NOT exist. you are happy because of your mindsets and the way you perceive things. So it’s all about YOU / I .. Never WE there. It’s all about the choice we make between wanting to be happy or wanting to be a victim.


I know I confuse sometimes. But I also know I explain well.. So, let me explain this. There is a wedding where more than 500 people are attending. Suddenly the groom  says NO to the bride. The wedding is called off. Do you seriously think EVERYONE is sad because a wedding broke and whatever the girl’s family spent had gone waste ? Nah … More than 25% of the people in wedding would have felt happy .. Let’s see ..


The wedding decorator, caterer, designer etc are happy because they are getting paid for the full service, where they had provided less than 50% of the service. Then it’s the turn of people who came to the wedding. Few might have hated the groom sometime or the bride, they feel happy the wedding broke. These people who are happy are extremely contagious.. They go and spread the viral as to why they are happy. They could be happy for the groom because they hate the girl, few could be happy because they didn’t like the boy and they think girl is extremely lucky to get rid of the boy before it’s too late.


But all these people had an option to sit and cry for the girl , because no matter how and why it happened, breaking a wedding is bad. ( it sounds sooo like the math table 2. You do whatever, 2*2 has to be 4 only. )


Now look at the girl’s family. though they are in a big trouble momentarily, they too have an option to make ! They have an option to sit and cry for the boy who has been irresponsible or thank god and be happy for letting them know that the boy IS Irresponsible. Probably if they had known about boy’s nature before, they had called of the wedding much before itself. Then, why it becomes tragedy when boy calls it off ?


It’s not about this wedding alone… It’s about any incident that we portray as tragedy, indeed has some other meaning. It’s our perception, that makes us see the dark side of any ONE incident. There is always something good that is hidden in EVERY incident of our life. It’s our choice to see the hidden side of it or see the momentary impact ( latter is easy though).


Your life may not be completely in your hands. But how to read your life and design your future is very much dependent on your perception. The more strong your design is, the more support you get from the almighty and the nature  : ) Of course, Experience speaking this side.



imagesHow do you rate yourself when it is about being bold and fearing to as less things as possible ? if your are close to 1 ( 1 being the best), trust me you are one the luckiest lot on the earth. There are many many fear factors which are causing the phobias and panic disorders that are categorized as a part of mental disorders. These are categorized under  anxiety disorders which can turn dangerous if not addressed in the right moment !

Fear is not phobia .. There is a thin line. We all fear many things in life. However, if fear of any particular thing is taking over your ability to lead normal life and disturbs the day-to-day routine, that is called phobia. To clearly differentiate, if you are in a forest and if you are scared thinking that a snake may come, that’s fear. But if you live in an apartment in a town and still always keep troubling yourself that a snake may come from some corner suddenly, that’s a phobia.  If you are phobic to something then don’t worry .. Just chill, because today being phobic has become so common that every 1 Canadian  out of 10 is phobic to one or the other thing. 5-12% of Americans have phobia disorders. And to make you feel more easier, I will tell you the number of people .. It makes a solid 6.3 million Adult Americans!!! What do you do when you know you have a particular phobia ?

The most recommended and simplified method of fighting a Phobia is to communicate more about it. the more you talk about it , the less you fear about it. Form communities of people with same disorder and keep talking about it. People who are already suffering may come up with the best practices. We are all human, with our own imperfections. But what makes us real human, different from all other is the way we struggle and come out of that imperfection.

But what if you are not able to come out of it ? remember, the most strategic efforts can go futile at times. It’s not the effort that failed but probably the strategy or that ONE idea that had failed. So, keep up with your effort part. Probably a better idea this time ?